Chi Yenn, a final year under-grad of Bachelor of Arts in UWA, Perth is known to many as “ah-ma” because of her constant unbecoming and sudden change from a perky young lady to a grandma with tyrannical-like lectures and soundings! A close friend to the couple with recent tour of Perth together in Feb 2007 as the latest highlight! Always in memory are the tea time chats at Sunway lounge, lunch at TGIF, Gelare night and chatting for hours on the phone!

Describe each other using only ONE word (and no hyphens!)

Beautiful.

Extraordinary.

Did your long-distance separation from each other benefit/worsen your relationship? Did both of you promise to wait the year out while Deb was in Perth and Ter in PJ OR was there an unspoken hope that if it was God's will, He'd make something happen after the separation?

To me, the distance made our friendship grow though face to face communication was definitely restricted.
No, we didn’t have any unspoken hope or anything similar. I did express to her a day before she left to Perth that if in any situation she would return home together with another guy, I would give her my full support as her best friend (sincerely and honestly).

The distance prepared me for what was to come, it definitely strengthen the friendship heaps and bounds. We didn’t promise each other that we’d wait (wasn’t like the clip from My Best Friend’s Wedding). It was really committing our lives to God and letting Him take control.

What is your approach to conflict-resolving in your relationship with each other? Some examples would be nice.

Stay quiet. Stop arguing. Wait till both have simmered. Construct my thoughts. Speak.

Talk things through. Let’s say if I can’t stand having seeing Terence hairstyle the same all the time, I would bring up the issue with a sentence like “Hmmm, are you going to the barber soon?” Terence’s reply sound something like “There she goes again. Yes I am going to the barber.” The conversation will go on until we come to a conclusion on how short his hair should be.

Deb, how did you know that Ter was 'the One' you'd marry? Please don't say his ability to crack lame jokes...

Hahaha! I can’t t remember much of his lame jokes anyway (so that’s definitely not the reason!) Hmmm…. I knew that he was the one that God prepared for me because the Lord spoke to me during our 3 months of praying before the relationship. And one of the proof of it was that he matched the 101 criteria I desired in my husband to be.

Ter, would you don a clown's costume with makeup instead of a suit for the wedding? (now, THAT'S unconventional). But I'd like to hear your answer to Deb's question as well.

Unconventional as it may be, but embarrassing it surely is. I guess, I’ll keep Hoopee (my clown name) at bay for once!

In what way are you grateful for the other's presence in your life?

She taught me patience and even more patience. She taught me that beauty is not from the outside but how you carry yourself. She taught me to live life and live it to the fullest. All these and much more – is why I’m so grateful. She plugged a lot of gaps in me and made (still making) me a more complete person

In eternally grateful for this relationship God has given, there’s not one day I go without thanking God for Terence in my life.

Describe your first kiss together

Great question! But unfortunately I can’t answer – since our first kiss will be at the altar.

Hmmmmm I guess it would be out of this world kind of feeling. But since we’ve not locked lips as yet, I wouldn’t be able to answer this question. As a little girl I made a choice to save my first kiss for my wedding day, I didn’t bent on on, so you’ll have to wait to know the answer!

If one of you were to be offered a career opportunity far from the other's family and friends, are you prepared to move?

Easier said than done, with many other things to weigh – yes, I would be prepared for the move when it comes at the right time. I always believe there are different phases and times God put you through and unless we make full use of it, we won’t fulfill what God intends for us.

If that’s where God wants us to be then – Yes.

What is one characteristic/belief/value you have retained from your singlehood that you'd like to see being continued in your marriage

Can have ONE only? I’ll probably go with “discipline”. I believe very much in discipline in everything. Not only being firm, but to also be discipline in completing very much the other things you are required to do. Yeah, so I would like that to be seen continuing in our marriage and thereafter.

Patience and single heartedness for God.

Can introduce me to a great single guy at your wedding ah?

Sure sure… there’ll be lots there. You want young boys, uncles, blue eyes, black silky hair, 8 pac abs, fat belly…take your pick!

Be sure of what you ask for little ma’am… Ask and it shall be given!